Tag: emotional healing

When the World Becomes Your Mirror: What Envy Really Teaches Us About Ourselves

Steve Avan

By Steve Avan

We like to believe that envy is about others — about their fame, beauty, or success. But envy, at its core, is never about them. It’s about the parts of ourselves we’ve left unexplored, unloved, or forgotten.

The world doesn’t provoke us to punish us. It reflects us. It holds up a mirror to what we’ve denied within. Every reaction, every judgment, every wave of jealousy — is simply life whispering, “Here is where you’ve abandoned your own light.”

The Mirror Effect of Success

When someone rises, we see more than their achievement — we see our own limitation. The higher they climb, the more clearly we glimpse the mountain we’ve refused to ascend.

Take the story of a young Hungarian athlete — professional football player Szoboszlai Dominik. His focus, his discipline, and his courage to live his purpose have made him a symbol of success. Yet, when you read the comment sections beneath his victories, something deeper unfolds. The applause is there, yes — but so is the projection. The envy. The quiet resentment.

Because his dedication confronts something uncomfortable: the part in us that didn’t dare to give everything. His light reminds us of our own excuses.

We don’t dislike his success. We dislike the reflection of our own unlived potential.

Envy Is Not Evil — It’s Information

Envy is not proof of weakness. It’s a message. It shows us where our energy has been trapped — in comparison, regret, or fear. It asks us to look closer, to meet the version of ourselves that still believes we are less.

When you feel that sting of jealousy, pause. Don’t push it away. Listen. Beneath that emotion lies longing — not for what they have, but for the part of you that’s ready to awaken.

As Carl Jung once said: “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”

From Comparison to Creation

Every soul journey begins the same way — with a mirror. You can use it to compare, or you can use it to transform. The moment you stop judging another’s path and start walking your own, the reflection changes.

Because the truth is this: you were never meant to replicate anyone’s success. You were meant to embody your own.

The world doesn’t need more critics. It needs more creators. More people who dare to act on the spark that envy first revealed.

So next time you feel the mirror burn — don’t look away.

Look closer. Because the person you envy is not ahead of you — they’re showing you what’s possible for you.

The mirror never lies.
It only asks: “Are you ready to see what’s been waiting inside you all along?”

— Steve Avan

A caterpillar gazes into a mirror and sees a butterfly — a poetic symbol of self-transformation, reflection, and awakening.

Sometimes, the world shows us our wings before we remember we have them.

A paper boat floating calmly on water, symbolizing release, surrender, and the energy of allowing.

Embracing Allowance: Finding Peace Through Non-Resistance

Steve Avan

We spend so much of our lives fighting what we don’t want. The people who trigger us. The jobs that drain us. The fears that seem to live rent-free in our minds.

And yet… no one, standing at the edge of their life, ever says: “I wish I’d worried more.” “I wish I’d spent more time scrolling.” “I wish I’d stayed longer in that toxic loop.”

Still, that’s how most of us live — locked in a constant inner battle with what is. We call it trying to change. But often, it’s just resistance wearing the mask of growth.

The Illusion of Control

From the moment we’re born, we’re taught to fix things. If something hurts — fix it. If something breaks — fix it. If someone doesn’t love you — become someone who earns it.

But energy doesn’t work that way. Because what we fight, we feed. Attention is energy, and energy doesn’t judge — it simply amplifies what it’s given.

So the more you fight what you don’t want, the more real it becomes. It’s not punishment. It’s physics — and it’s consciousness.

What “Allowing” Really Means

Allowing isn’t passivity. It’s presence. It’s the moment you stop tightening against life and start breathing with it. It’s not saying, “I agree with this.” It’s saying, “I see this — and I choose not to fight it anymore.”

When you resist something, you tie your energy to it; you keep it alive through your attention. But when you allow it — not approve, not endorse, simply allow — it begins to dissolve. You stop feeding it. You stop being its anchor.

The Energetic Shift

The next time you find yourself in conflict — with a person, a thought, or a situation — pause. Notice where your energy tightens: your shoulders, your stomach, your throat.

Then ask softly: “What if I stopped fighting this?”

You’ll feel a subtle shift. The energy that was tangled in tension begins to flow again. That’s what healing actually feels like.

Peace Isn’t a Goal — It’s What Remains

We’ve been taught to chase peace, to work for happiness, to deserve love. But peace isn’t something you earn. It’s what’s left when you stop resisting.

You don’t have to fix the noise — you only have to stop becoming it. In the quiet that follows, you realize something extraordinary: You were never broken. You were only holding on too tightly.

Let go. Let life move through you. And let peace find its way back home.

A paper boat floating calmly on water, symbolizing release, surrender, and the gentle flow of allowing.
A paper boat floating quietly on water — a symbol of letting go and trusting the flow.

Steve Avan

When the Body Says No: The Unspoken Truth Hiding in Your Throat

Steve Avan

They say the truth will set you free. But what if you never say it?

What if you learned, long ago, that love is earned by silence? What if you were rewarded, not for honesty, but for obedience?

And so, you smile when you’re breaking. You nod when you disagree. You say “it’s fine” when it’s anything but.

The world calls it kindness. But your body knows better.

The Spiritual Cost of Pleasing Everyone

There’s a moment most of us can recall: We wanted to say something. Something honest. But we hesitated. What if they misunderstand? What if they pull away?

So we swallowed the truth. Again. And again. And again.

Each unspoken truth becomes a weight. And the body carries what the mind won’t.

In GNM (German New Medicine), the throat often becomes the battleground for these inner wars. Conflicts tied to self-expression, the inability to speak one’s truth, or the fear of not being heard can manifest as chronic throat issues: recurring sore throats, tension, thyroid imbalances, even voice loss.

Not as punishment. But as a signal. A whisper that says: “There is something in you that longs to be heard.”

Truth is Not Violence

Many of us fear that speaking up will make us unkind. But there’s a difference between truth and attack. You can be honest and still be gentle. You can disagree without disconnecting.

And more than that: You can learn to hear your own voice before you worry about who else does.

A Soft Return to Yourself

The journey back to your voice doesn’t begin with shouting. It begins with listening.

When you notice that familiar tightness in your throat… Pause. Breathe. Ask gently: “What am I not saying?”

Let that question sit. Let it echo. And let it guide you back to the truth that’s been waiting.

You are not here to be agreeable. You are here to be whole.

And the world doesn’t need your perfection. It needs your presence.

Start there.

Steve Avan

How to Reconnect With Your Inner Core in a Noisy World

Steve Avan

In a world filled with constant notifications, noise, and endless demands for our attention, it’s easy to lose touch with the quiet space within us — our inner core. Yet, this core holds the essence of who we are: peaceful, centered, and deeply aware. Reconnecting with this space isn’t just a spiritual luxury — it’s a path back to clarity, meaning, and presence.

Why We Lose Touch with Our Inner Self

When everything around us is moving fast, we begin to seek answers outside ourselves. We scroll, search, ask, and react — forgetting that the most truthful guidance comes not from the world, but from within. Our inner core is always present, but it requires quiet to be heard.

Signs You’ve Disconnected from Your Inner Core:

  • Constant mental restlessness
  • Feeling “lost” or without clear direction
  • Anxiety in silence
  • Overwhelm even during rest

3 Ways to Reconnect with Your Inner Core

1. Embrace Intentional Stillness

Even 5 minutes a day of quiet, without input, can begin to re-tune your awareness inward. Try sitting without music, screens, or tasks — and simply breathe. Let your nervous system exhale.

2. Listen to the Body, Not Just the Mind

Your body is a reflection of your inner truth. Notice where tension gathers. Ask: “What is this sensation trying to tell me?” Often, the answer isn’t verbal — it’s intuitive.

3. Ask Soulful Questions

Instead of “What should I do?”, try: “What do I truly need right now?” or “What am I avoiding that’s actually calling me home?”

The Seed is Still There

You don’t have to create your inner core — you only have to remember it. Just like an acorn carries the potential of an entire oak tree, your true self is intact within you, waiting for space to grow. The Acorn was written as a reminder of that truth.

So pause. Turn inward. And knock on the door that has always been slightly open.

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